Wednesday, December 19, 2018

December 19th, 2018 Each Day

December 19th, 2018 Each Day

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

The party at the studio turned out really well yesterday. I made fresh guacamole and sliced a couple of big juicy ambrosia apples. It was perfect. I received a Starbucks gift card in the exchange, then later in the day, received another from a friend! I'm set on coffee for a while!
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I think sometimes it's very easy for someone to look at what I do and how I'm maintaining my plan and get the impression that it's somehow easy for me. It isn't. I think it's also easy for someone to forget the nearly two decades of struggle near, at, or above 500 pounds... it's certainly not easy for me to forget. The failed attempts, time and time again--sabotaging myself over and over--lose, gain, lose, gain--on plan, off plan--and so on...for nearly two decades. When I started writing this blog over ten years ago, I started turning those nearly two decades into my own personal study of what worked and mostly what didn't. Suddenly, what I perceived to be a collection of worthless past failures became very valuable lessons.

The things I do each day are not for show. The logging, the accountability tweets, the strong connections to giving and receiving support, the writing of this blog, the production of my podcast, the planning, preparing, cooking, weighing and measuring everything, the daily prayer, and meditation--these things and more are my rails of support.

Is it all solid? Not by a long shot. The only thing that's solid is my food plan and a willingness to do the work necessary to maintain its integrity. I eat what I like and nothing I don't within the boundaries of a generous maintenance budget. And I feel like, in a way, I've earned that calorie budget--like a reward of sorts from my metabolism for getting this far and giving it what I do. The food plan has evolved, of course, but it's still been "what I like and nothing I don't" from Day 1. That's it--I have a solid food plan.

I'm lacking in every other area. Rest, exercise, spiritual--every other area needs increased attention. That's not a knock on me--it's simply a reminder of the practice needed each day. And I know--if I continue lacking in these other areas, it'll eventually infect the strongest areas of my personal plan.

This here thing isn't easy. It might come off that way with day after day of "hey--today was great!" But trust, I work at it each day. I focus. I learn. I take extraordinary care. I make sure to enjoy the process. I make it important to be kind to me along the way.

Above all, I understand that this is never a given. It's never automatic. And it's never guaranteed. I start fresh each day and try to add just one more day to this practice.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More episodes coming soon!

Tuesday, December 18, 2018

December 18th, 2018 Sharper Focus

December 18th, 2018 Sharper Focus

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

We were short staffed yesterday--and that, combined with a couple other extra commitments I'm contracted for with the school district, created a fairly busy day. However, it was very focused, despite waking up way too early yesterday morning. I felt good. I had my list and I worked it one by one. Some days call for a sharper focus, right? It's like, okay--if this (the list) is going to get done, I need to stay focused and actively working.

Today we're having our company Secret Santa and holiday lunch get-together thingy. I'm making guacamole. I'm also bringing apple slices. Some keys for me at an event like this is, number one, knowing the boundaries of my food plan--and honoring those--and two, making sure what I bring are things I can easily fit into my food plan. For added accountability and support, I'll bookend text my plan for the event to a close support contact, too. That connection always helps when the event calls for all sorts of off-plan things on the table.

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Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More episodes coming soon!

Monday, December 17, 2018

December 17th, 2018 Before You Decide To Give Up, Please Read This

December 17th, 2018 Before You Decide To Give Up, Please Read This

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

I'm so glad this weekend and the illness thing is behind me. I'm ready to start this week in a wonderful way. I woke up too early this morning and couldn't go back to sleep. Instead of forcing the issue, I decided to jump up and start early. Most certainly an afternoon nap will be part of this day--I certainly hope so because I'll likely need it after this 3:15am start. Yesterday went very well. Mom and I enjoyed our weekly evening out for dinner, Christmas lights, and a store run. Mom picked up a nice little Christmas tree to brighten her place. It looks wonderful--perfect size for her space.

I spent some time on the phone with a support friend last night. It was a tough call. She was done. The call was to inform me that she had reached the end of struggling, deciding rather, to simply lean into the compulsions, release any semblance of a plan, and just accept whatever consequences lay ahead.

There's peace in acceptance.

I thanked her for calling me. I reminded her that I thought the world of her and I wanted her to know that struggle wasn't any kind of moral failure. There's no judgment or shame, ever, from me. I've been there, I know. I also know that the biggest amount of judgment and shame comes from within our own heads, not anyone else. I reminded her that she could always keep me as a support contact moving forward. And with that, I thanked her again for calling me and I wished her a good night's rest.

There was a short pause--a silence on the line before, "do you want to talk me out of it or give me some advice on how to not do this?" I don't remember my exact words, but essentially it was, no, I'm honoring where you are and your decision. If you're telling me you're done, then words from me to the contrary aren't likely to help. I don't have any magic words. I'm not an expert, a therapist, a doctor, or anything like that--I only have my very imperfect experiences along this road. Along the way, I've learned that it doesn't matter how much I want it for someone else--it's no match; never enough to compete with what's happening inside someone else's head if they're at the point of saying, I'm done.

It's a process. Each and every one of us go through our own unique process. Sometimes it's best to get out of the way. What I mean is this-- Some of my greatest periods of struggle are the times I'm most grateful for along this road. I'm not saying it's desirable. I'm simply saying those experiences, as horrible as they were at times, were showing me the things I needed in order to move forward in a positive way.

"You're really not done, are you?" There was another pause and then, "No, I'm just tired of fighting."

Are you willing to create a plan with the structure and elements that support you in a way that might just decrease those feelings of struggle? Are you willing to suspend your personal expectation of perfection--those personal preconceived notions of what "on plan" means? Are you willing to start simple? Are you willing to be kind and gentle to yourself? I mean really, how can we move forward if we're constantly pummeling ourselves with a barrage of negative energy?

Create a gratitude list. When it gets dark it's really hard to see the good things and blessings we have right in front of us. It's as if they disappear completely. A written list might help keep these things visible. Write a personal journal entry of your "why." Why is this important to you? Create a list of consequences in both directions--use your imagination, visualize the road ahead and commit it to paper.

She isn't giving up. I'm not giving up. And I hope you're not giving up, either. I believe in her. I believe in you. I believe in me. Just don't check out. Don't give up.

That's truly the most important thing.

Don't give up. If everything in your mind is saying it's hopeless, it isn't. Don't give up. The time will come again. The "click" will happen. The plan will be made with parameters customized to you, based on what you've learned along the way. Don't give up. If you feel a million miles away from getting into the groove toward weight loss and better health, be patient and don't give up.

It's hard to believe how far down I felt at the worst points along the way. A good friend who has been there, wouldn't let me go; wouldn't let me release what little hope I had left. I was giving up every day. I felt stuck. I felt trapped.

I felt like my choices were not my own, as if possessed. I was scared. I isolated. I felt alone like nobody could possibly understand the struggle. I was wrong. Plenty of people understand the struggle. Maybe you understand exactly what I'm writing about. Don't give up.

At this point, a food and exercise plan isn't the most immediate thing needed. The most immediate thing needed is someone to tell you, you're not alone--and this isn't the end. There's hope. And a better day may not be today, tomorrow or next week. But a better day is coming for you if, you don't give up. You're not alone. This isn't the end.

I don't remember the moment of truth. I don't remember the exact words spoken to me. I do remember being filled with hope once again and realizing it was a turning point. I could have easily turned the other way. If I had made that choice, to ignore and isolate further, by now I would have once again exceeded 500 pounds--there's not a shred of doubt about it.

I spend plenty of time exploring thoughts of thanks and gratitude for the incredible blessings this turnaround from relapse/regain has become. I've often wondered why my friend, Gerri Helms, didn't get exhausted and give up on me back there, not too long ago. Now I know why. She knew I wasn't really done. She's been there, too. And she knows the truth. It isn't hopeless. She believed in me when I no longer believed in myself and she convinced me to give it another look, or several.

I may not know you personally. We've likely never met or spoken to one another. But based on what I know about this journey, I can tell you with 100% confidence, I believe in you.

I'm not special. What I've done and what I'm doing isn't unique. It's been done by countless people before me. It's a practice, not perfection.

It's about progress, not perfection. It's about how you feel, not a number. It's about you and for you, not about or for anyone else. It's about living, not dying. It's about dreaming, not dreading. It's about freedom, not imprisonment. It's about opening your mind to the possibilities, not closing it to the changes. It's about acceptance, not rejection. It's about nourishing, not depriving. It's about a broadly consistent importance level, not short bursts of narrow focus. It's about wanting, not forcing. It's about doing your best, not trying to do another's best. It's about today, not tomorrow, or next week or the first of the month or January 1st. It's about committing to consistency with all your heart and holding on tight, not a halfhearted commitment easily released with the slightest breeze. It's about you deserving better because you do. It's about you being important because you are important.

I believe we each have it inside us. It's there, just waiting until you're ready to tap its blessings. It's in you, too. Don't give up.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

If you're interested in connecting via social media:
I accept friend requests on MyFitnessPal. My daily food logging diary is set to public.
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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More episodes coming soon!

Sunday, December 16, 2018

December 16th, 2018 We Learn

December 16th, 2018 We Learn

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget (Ate more than yesterday but still wasn't eating too much because of illness), I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

I'm coming out of the food poisoning situation fairly well. I kept my food intake really low again yesterday just to be safe. I received the stern MFP warning about eating too little as I saved yesterday's logging. MFP needs a little box you check when you're sick.

Last night's stand-up performance was not good. A lot of things came together to make it the opposite of what it was two years ago and of course, my brain has checked through them all. Two years ago was an hour-plus killing from start to finish, similar to the year before that--but this, oh my, my third time back, was not the same. It's okay. It happens. It didn't have very much to do with me not being well, that was the least of the circumstances. But I own it. Bottom line, I didn't connect with the audience as in years before--and that's on me. I used the same strategy in prepping fresh material as I did in years past--and in hindsight, I can see where a completely different approach was needed. We learn, right?

I slept in very well today. I needed the rest. I'm finally feeling back to normal.

My plan today is to pretty much resume my normal food plan schedule.

One very cool thing that happened last night...

As I was pacing in the hallway before my set, I was approached by a man who was very fit, built--and you could tell, he takes extraordinary care of himself. He told me that my story had inspired him a while back to start making changes. He chose change before changes chose him! We had never connected personally--I didn't know him before last night. I didn't expect that at all. It was truly a blessing to me. I'm so grateful for experiences like this. 

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

If you're interested in connecting via social media:
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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More episodes coming soon!

Saturday, December 15, 2018

December 15th, 2018 Lesson Learned

December 15th, 2018 Lesson Learned

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget (wasn't eating too much because of illness), I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal by six cups, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

Yesterday was rough. I'm usually really good at masking how I feel while I'm on the air but I just couldn't yesterday. I sounded sick and I was sick. Food poisoning is brutal--thank goodness it's temporary. Lesson learned: No more saving diced onions for cooking later. I'm 99.9% certain the onions in my sweet potato side dish the other night was the culprit. I had to get through my show, then a location broadcast from a small car dealer before being able to make it home to rest.

I made extra water a priority yesterday. I didn't eat much because I just didn't feel like eating. I made myself eat some lunch because through the cruddiness, I was also hungry. Then I took a nap for four hours. My goodness, that stuff put me down.

The good news is, I'm feeling much better today. And that's a great thing because I have a location broadcast this morning and a big standup set tonight at a large corporate private party. The show must go on!!

MyFitnessPal doesn't like it when you try to save a day with a super low-calorie count. I ended yesterday under 700 calories for obvious reasons. Haven't seen this message in a long time:



















Okay, MFP, relax!! I know! It's one day! I was sick!! I'm still taking it easy on the food today. I don't need anything upsetting my recovery before tonight's big performance.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More new-new episodes coming soon!

Friday, December 14, 2018

December 14th, 2018 Food Poisoning

December 14th, 2018 Food Poisoning

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

I think I gave myself food poisoning. I became very sick just after 2am, laid back down after--sipping water. then woke at 4:30 with a very pronounced feeling, like I could throw-up again, anytime. My dinner was fairly simple--petite sirloin with a side of pan prepared sweet potatoes, red onion, and orange bell pepper.  The dinner tweet is below. I used leftover raw veggies that were in the fridge for the side dish, so I don't know. They looked fine. I think this is food poisoning because I don't think I'm running a fever. I can't find my thermometer to confirm.

This is not a day I can afford to be sick. I'm going to try to go to work. If this persists, I won't have a choice and alternative arrangments will be required for the rest of day.

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Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

If you're interested in connecting via social media:
I accept friend requests on MyFitnessPal. My daily food logging diary is set to public.
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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More new-new episodes coming soon!

Thursday, December 13, 2018

December 13th, 2018 In Sync

December 13th, 2018 In Sync

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

Good morning! Thank you for coming to these pages each day and reading this daily diary of happenings, thoughts, and ideas. I'm grateful. I hope that every now and then something I've experienced and shared here resonates deeply for you.

Yesterday was a good day and today is set to hopefully be another. I'm running behind this morning, so I'll keep this short. I've completed my morning routine, my breakfast items are planned and packed, lunch things are at the studio, and I have a list of things to make important today. I slept well, so today's practice is in a position to be relatively "in sync." 

The following excerpt with a couple of 2018 edits was originally written almost four years ago.

From January 2015:
Getting out of sync can quickly create irrational fears within me. It's certainly an area I need to further analyze and understand because life happens--out of sync can happen. I suppose the determining factor for necessary concern is if the interruption is intentional or circumstantial. In the case of last week, it was certainly circumstantial.

It's critically important to differentiate between the two and quickly because the negative emotions born from an improper perspective have the potential to turn choices intentionally negative, fast. It didn't come to this for me last week because I reached out for support, directly with support buddies--and indirectly through writing in this blog.

The most interesting elements along this road to me, are the psychological/mental/emotional parts. These have the ability to swing in both directions depending on how they're used. It makes the difference between consistency and chaos.

The food and exercise plans are fundamentals for success, but in my opinion aren't necessarily the most critical elements. Make no mistake, learning the importance of your personal boundaries (like my abstinence from sugar) quickly become monumental difference makers. In my opinion, the parts between our ears determine our trajectory, every time. This is why many of us can experience incredible success doing different plans, or 'what works for us,' and still find so much in common along the way.

The greatest challenge is a matter of faith. Believing in yourself enough to ignite that certain something within you that says, "I'm doing this. I don't have all the answers, I don't know how necessarily, but I'm doing it and I'll figure it out what works for me along the way." That takes big faith and courage. Faith in a power greater than yourself is critically important. "Believing in yourself enough" shouldn't be confused with going it alone. None of us go it alone, for very long, at least. It's more about deciding once and for all, you're worth the effort this requires.

This is especially difficult for anyone who must have all the answers before they start. Some of the smartest people I know have the hardest time getting started. I personally know of a doctor who is well over 400 pounds. A doctor! I use this, not in a judgmental way, but simply as an example to illustrate how it's not about intelligence.

It doesn't matter what we know. What matters is what we do.

It's about simplifying your elements, your fundamentals--setting up some kind of support and accountability system and most importantly, keeping an open mind along the way. Incredibly intelligent people sometimes have a hard time simplifying. If you're struggling, is it a compliment to your intelligence? It could be! Keep it simple, my friend.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

If you're interested in connecting via social media:
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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More new-new episodes coming soon!

Wednesday, December 12, 2018

December 12th, 2018 Bookend

December 12th, 2018 Bookend

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

The three-hour location broadcast yesterday at the grand opening of a new convenience store/restaurant went well. My plan was very simple: Enjoy coffee during and wait for a good on-plan meal after the broadcast. This was the plan I bookended with a support friend and that helped to strengthen my resolve. However...

Oh my goodness, the first, "You gotta try this" came within minutes of my arrival--and the offers of free food continued coming from a couple different home-office type people with this client. I totally get it. I'm the one on the air describing their offerings--and these food items are premium in every way, I mean--this is a company that operates their own test kitchens, so they're serious about quality. I'll spare you the food-porn descriptions, but trust, everything was over-the-top. It's only natural for them to suggest I sample several things. I had a couple of colleagues with me and they were ordering things, so that helped. I deflected the offers until the offers stopped coming while delivering the kind of broadcast they wanted for the grand opening event. It worked out well. I'm grateful. To be fair, I could have selected some things for a make-shift on-plan lunch--certainly. But in that environment, honestly, I'd rather focus on my job and focus on lunch, later. It felt good to compose and send that follow-up bookend support text after the event.

I'm ready for a good Wednesday. It'll be a busy production day with a couple clients scheduled for in-studio voice work immediately after my morning show. I'm planned, packed, and prepared in order to have what I need, when I need, where I need...yep, the Three P's and Three W's are checked and ready for today. 

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 "new" episodes waiting for you! More new-new episodes coming soon!

Tuesday, December 11, 2018

December 11th, 2018 The Practice

December 11th, 2018 The Practice

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

Yesterday was a good one. I really enjoyed my food plan, too, and that's important for me. If I'm not happy with my food plan, it isn't going to be something I can continue with any kind of consistency. The time and effort I put into preparing my meals is a way for me to remain mindful. The planning, prepping, weighing, measuring, logging in MFP, and cooking takes much less time than my brain tries to tell me it will. I need that time, though, to keep me mindful and aware of what I'm doing and what I'm eating. The years of mindless eating of whatever and whenever didn't lead to good places. This daily practice helps keep me away from those places.
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Before you read the rest of this post, I must preface it with this: I must start each and every day humbly admitting that I need help and then, I ask for help in maintaining the non-negotiables of this daily practice. The disease of food addiction/compulsive overeating is a powerful one. I have it. There's no denying this fact because I've lived it my entire life. Not everyone has it. I do.

In order to maintain non-negotiables in the way described below, it takes a structured approach--the practice, each day. All of the elements are important. Staying connected with support, remaining accountable, creating and honoring a personal trigger list, and when it comes to emotional and stress eating triggers--creating enough space, or pause, to act instead of react. Acting on life instead of reacting to life is a big deal along this road. It takes intentional actions each day. These actions act like rails I can hold onto. These actions or elements become pillars supporting the plan each day.

How did you determine your non-negotiables and how do you stick to them when things get hard?

First of all, you determine what's reasonable. Once you define the most critical elements of your plan boundaries- and you've determined they're doable on a typical day- then, you make what I call an iron-clad decision. It's a promise to you from you, to give this element a non-negotiable stance come what may. 

Think of it as a boulder in a stream. Life is the rushing water. No matter how fast that water rushes, the boulder isn't moving. The boulder isn't sacrificed or compromised. The water has no choice, but to make its way around it- and it does. And the boulder in the stream stands strong.

On a deeper level, this creates growth/development in other areas, like coping skills- it develops growth in learning what good accountability and support skills are about. The more consistency you gain, the more you'll prove to yourself that it is possible to maintain your plan in the toughest of times.

And that's the idea, a plan, not a diet.

You're developing a plan that takes care of what you need. In honoring your plan, you'll notice the side effect of consistent weight loss. This is what Dr. Lerner (Transformation Planet Podcast Episode 7) means when he speaks of the focus NOT being a diet, but rather, a food plan you can live with indefinitely. And it can still have the boundaries you need to feel satisfied. Especially when you reach maintenance mode and increase your calories.

But again, it's all about the daily plan--and not all about the numbers on the scale. If you take care of your daily plan-the weight loss will come.

How important are your non-negotiable elements? 

It is the consistent maintenance of what you're willing to define as non-negotiable that creates growth, and in that--a natural evolution unfolds.

Think once more about the boulder in the stream. The boulder stands strong against the current and because it does, the stream evolves--changes course, grows and with the gift of time, develops different paths and canyons. If the boulder simply moved out of the way every time the water came rushing--the stream would have an easier path--one of least resistance. In the path of least resistance, nothing changes. No growth, no canyons.

I've often written about the effects of maintaining non-negotiables. The only way our food plan develops/evolves over time is by maintaining the integrity of the plan. All growth, all of our positive progress--it all depends on our willingness to create, accept and embrace certain non-negotiable elements of our plan. Determining what's reasonable is VERY important. If your non-negotiable is extreme, doesn't fit what you naturally like--is overly restrictive and monumentally demanding, it'll be a horrible experience.

Make it doable for you.

If we sacrifice our plan for whatever reason, the boundaries are broken and growth is stunted. If we develop a habit of consistently sacrificing the integrity of the non-negotiable elements of our plan, we literally become stuck--and often this "stuck" place becomes the very definition of insanity.

Life keeps coming. And there's no such thing as a "perfect time." There's only here and now and with it, a forever fluctuating rhythm to life. Let life flow around the boulders of your non-negotiables... and with the passage of time, you'll experience growth--you'll see and feel the changes, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

Developing your plan for accountability and support is important.

When we decide to create non-negotiable elements of our plan, we lose a coping option. Excess food was always my number one coping tool, albeit not a good one. It lied to me every time--because it never fixed anything.

When I developed my non-negotiables, it strongly encouraged me to either seek positive ways to cope or find other destructive ways to do it. We gotta cope one way or another.

My skills haven't been and still aren't perfect, but it's a practice each and every day.

Staying connected with good support and seeking out those connections in whatever way you can is critically important. There are many options available!

I'm broadcasting today from a convenience store/restaurant grand opening. My job will include a lot of on-air talk about food. The irony is never lost on me. It's pretty thick, especially when I'm regularly voicing commercials for foods that are at the top of my trigger list. But it is part of my job. I compartmentalize and I remember the practice that helps keep me well one day at a time--and sometimes, one hour at a time!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

If you're interested in connecting via social media:
I accept friend requests on MyFitnessPal. My daily food logging diary is set to public.
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Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 17 episodes waiting for you! More new episodes coming soon!

Monday, December 10, 2018

December 10th, 2018 Getting Closer

December 10th, 2018 Getting Closer

Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.

We're getting closer to Christmas, oh my!! The weekend was filled with Christmas activities. I didn't complete all of the Christmas things I had planned, but still, it was productive. Mom wasn't feeling her best last night, so we opted out of the Christmas in Jazz big band concert and settled into a dinner and Christmas lights plan for her Sunday outing. It worked well.

I'll be spending a little time preparing each day this week for Saturday's private stand-up performance. I don't do it very often, so it takes some serious prep. Back in the day when I was doing it all the time, it was easy because I was always practiced and ready with my set--open with some custom material written specifically for the client, then regular set with the normal closer, then a big custom closer for the client--and done. I don't necessarily have a "regular set" these days. Back in practice, I could do it in my sleep. It takes a little more effort when you book only one or two gigs a year! But it'll be great. The skill set needed to perform is deeply ingrained--that part is like riding a bike. Now the challenge becomes, what'll make these people laugh and have a good time? I'll find it!

My morning routine is complete. My food plan is set. I'm poised and ready for a good Monday.

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Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

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