Tuesday, November 19, 2019

November 19th, 2019 Behind The Scenes

November 19th, 2019 Behind The Scenes

Since our last edition, I've maintained the integrity of my food plan boundaries, I've remained refined sugar-free, I've met or exceeded my daily water goal, I've enjoyed some good walks, and I've stayed well connected with exceptional support.

A couple of close friends and a few readers of this blog have all recently expressed concern because I'm not posting daily of late. One quoted me, "if I ever stop this daily writing, it's not a good sign." I'm grateful for friends who truly care about me in the most genuine and loving ways. I assured them, as I assure you, I'm doing well and I do intend to resume a more consistent schedule of posting. I have been doing a lot of "behind the scenes" work on my daily practice and on me, in a couple of powerful and fantastic ways. Finding ways to strengthen this daily practice of things, not only on the surface with practical/intentional actions, but also--and most importantly, in the deeply personal/internal/spiritual/mental/emotional ways, has been my greatest focus of late. In this work, I'm learning from those I can listen to, watch, and learn from--and I'm working with an incredible therapist, too! I'm enthused, full of hope, positive, and excited about the future. My gratitude list for it all is a long and beautiful one.

I spent some time with Noah recently. We had the best time. It had been a while since we simply hung out together. He's six years old now! We enjoyed lunch together, shopped at the local bookstore (he loves books!), and he showed me what he wanted for Christmas. He's a talker and I love listening to him speak. He filled me in on his schoolwork, including his reading level--which is advanced (proud Po Po here) and told me about his first-grade girlfriend. It was a blessing of an afternoon/evening.
       


















My uncle Keith, mom's brother, was in town last night. I made it out to the nursing home for a visit with mom and him before I made it home for a good dinner. Thanksgiving plans are coming together for our family get-together, too, and I'm thrilled about that.

If you're a regular reader of this blog, you know how every couple of months I write about openings in the private support group I facilitate. Another 8-week session is upon us! We do have a few openings for new members. If you're interested in discovering something very different in this small, exclusive, and special group--email me for details! Send your inquiry to: transformation.road@gmail.com

I also work one on one with people. My mentoring/coaching along this road is something I take very seriously. I'm not an expert, a guru, or anything like that, I'm working my daily practice of things each and every day just like the rest of us. Working closely with my private group members and one on one clients also helps strengthen my daily practice. The rewards come in the way of witnessing incredible turnarounds in the kind of perspectives that can help create a long-term sustainable practice that is created by and personalized to the individual. Speaking of gratitude--oh my, it overflows for this opportunity I have each and every day.

One of my one on one clients, Meredith, wrote an absolutely beautiful review of our first three months of working together. It was such a blessing to wake up yesterday to this, waiting in my email:
     
I have followed Sean’s transformation since the beginning. I read his blog, his book, and followed him on social media. His words made sense and I found myself wanting what he had. Still, I struggled with making change a priority, until one day I had a realization that in order to change I needed to make myself a priority. 

If you had told me that I would lose 30 pounds in 3 months I would have paid any amount of money you asked. Now, here I am after 3 months of one on one coaching and I have gained so much more that is priceless to me. My family, friends, and coworkers are noticing my weight loss, but also commenting on my increased positivity and overall happiness. It’s true! I have more energy, I’m sleeping better, and I’m practicing an attitude of gratitude which has made every day more beautiful. 

With Sean’s constant encouragement, structured mentoring, and accountability measures I have developed an individualized plan that works for me. As a result, I have achieved lifelong sustainable goals in the area of sleep, water intake, physical activity and meal logging that I thought were impossible. 

Deciding to bet on myself has paid off for me and my family. Just last week my husband told me that he was glad I signed up with Sean. He admitted he had been skeptical at first, but now he is a believer. 

Sean’s enthusiasm and commitment to his client’s well-being is contagious. He is earnest, caring, non-judgmental and a tremendous source of knowledge. I love the fact that I can call or text him with a scenario and he has multiple suggestions on how to handle it. I honestly feel like I have my own personal cheerleader in my pocket at all times. 

I’m so thankful I have begun this lifelong journey and if you have been considering a making change in your life I cannot recommend Sean highly enough. 

-Meredith Willis

Meredith, thank you. You're doing amazing work! It's an honor to be along for the ride!

I keep my list of one on one clients very small. I do have room for a couple more if you're inspired and interested in learning more. Again, please email me with questions for more details! transformation.road@gmail.com

My morning foundational routine is complete, my food plan is secure and ready for today, and I'm looking forward to a wonderful Wednesday. I hope yours is wonderful, too!

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Do you own an "I'm Choosing Change" wristband? Here's the deal, I'm not a very good salesman. I haven't offered these consistently on this blog--yet, I have them available! I wear mine daily as a constant reminder of why my daily practice of things is important. I'm not alone, either. This powerful message is worn on the wrists of people in a dozen states, maybe more, I haven't counted--but it's up there!! From New York to California and from Canada all the way to Scotland, they're out there! For me, it's simply a daily reminder to be open, willing, mindful, to pause, and to be intentional. If I'm not those things, I get stuck at the line of least resistance and back there is where the old patterns and behaviors thrive. Your order includes priority shipping so you'll get it quickly! Here's the link to order yours right now: https://imchoosingchange.com/product/wristband/

My website shares a phone number with my podcast, Transformation Planet, and it's always available for you! Have a question? Want to share your story? Leave a voicemail or Text me! 580-491-2228 I'll text you back!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

My website: www.imchoosingchange.com

If you're interested in connecting via social media:
I accept friend requests on MyFitnessPal. My daily food logging diary is set to public.
MFP Username: SeanAAnderson
My Twitter: SeanAAnderson
Facebook: www.facebook.com/seananderson505
Instagram: SeanAAnderson
Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for Android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 20 episodes waiting for you!

Questions or comments? Send an email! transformation.road@gmail.com

Friday, November 15, 2019

November 15th, 2019 That Would Be Nice

November 15th, 2019 That Would Be Nice

Since our last edition, I've maintained the integrity of my calorie budget, I've remained refined sugar-free, I've met or exceeded my daily water goal, I've enjoyed some good walks, and I've stayed well connected with exceptional support.

Mom called me the other day--and that's not unusual, we talk on the phone at least a few times each day, but this call was different. She was enthusiastically inviting me to have dinner with her at the nursing home's annual Thanksgiving dinner for residents and families. "Of course I'll be there!" Mom is doing much better these days and seeing her excited about something is a very positive thing. I walked in and there she was at the table surrounded by other residents and staff. Mom introduced me to a few I haven't met and within minutes the staff was serving us a meal. I asked if I could make my own plate and it wasn't a problem at all. I was able to assemble a good on-plan meal. It was a late lunch for me, pushing back my dinner plans, but it was worth it, 100%.

We had a company event the other day that included all kinds of "not my food." I'm grateful for the neutrality I seem to have in situations like this. I prepared my on-plan lunch and enjoyed my food along with everyone else. The fact that I didn't eat what everyone else was eating did not, in any way, shape, or form, take away from the special occasion. I'm not opposed to eating what everyone else is eating IF it fits into my food plan boundaries, but if it doesn't, it doesn't--and sacrificing the integrity of those boundaries doesn't come cheap. The cost is dramatically high. I'd rather not pay that price.

There was a time when I'd convince myself how if I didn't eat what everyone else was eating, then it would somehow ruin things--whatever those things are...or it might be insulting to someone who might have prepared something special for the occasion. What I've discovered in this daily practice is how those old tapes were not true and largely a product of my overactive imagination--helped along by the rationalizations created by my addicted brain. Granted, there are some people who will say things like, "oh, you've got to at least take a bite of this stuff." Uh, no, thank you. If that happens and someone actually does get offended by my decline, that's their stuff, not my stuff.

It's interesting to me because if somebody says they've been sober for ten years, the typical response isn't--"oh, but you've never tried my margaritas!! Come on, just a sip?" Yet, with food, it happens.

I prepared a fantastic dinner tonight. The best part was dancing around my small kitchen with 80's pop playing through my earbuds as I casually took my time.

I have a broadcast Saturday morning from a grocery store in the next town north of here. It's the same grocery store from countless broadcasts over the years. Their advertising works well! I'm glad. It works well for me too because it's as if I'm getting paid to grocery shop. It's truly one of my favorite places to do a location broadcast.

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Staying focused is a challenge for me. Certainly, there are things I've found a way to stay focused on or I wouldn't be here, but of all the things I focus on well, there are even more things that don't get the same level of attention. In an effort to change this pattern, I'm looking at the things I'm able to focus on and dissecting what makes those work. I'm hoping this personal study will help me unlock a few areas of progress important to me.

I think it starts with the importance level I subconsciously assign things in my life. My "importance level knob" seems to have two settings, "life or death" and "that would be nice." Does that make sense? From one extreme to the other--The life or death setting requires boundaries and daily practices designed to help keep me well. The that would be nice setting doesn't conjure up solid boundaries, daily practices, or action plans--because I can survive without the things attached to this setting. Not thrive, just survive.

Creating a few new settings between these two is critically important for me and my personal development.

Before I break each of my goals down into workable action plans they must receive a new importance level setting in my brain.

That would be nice is a setting best kept for things largely out of my control, like winning the lottery. Sure, that would be nice, but it isn't likely--especially since I hardly ever buy tickets. But winning, that would be nice, huh?

I have very real and important goals of mine that deserve better importance level settings. Clearly, they're not literally life or death things. But they do mean life or death for my dreams.

I don't want to reach the end of my life--laying there with my time up as family and friends stop by to visit, and I'm preoccupied with mental visits from unrealized goals and dreams that were never given a chance to flourish. "Oh, what could have been" is a phrase I don't want in my brain during my last days on this earth. I want to be full of gratitude for a life full of blessings.
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Examining these things is a good place to find me. I'm looking at what works well and pulling some of that structure into areas of my life that need structure and importance. I'm creating new importance level settings in my brain. I'm creating action plans for real progress. I'm changing that would be nice into that is a must.

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Do you own an "I'm Choosing Change" wristband? Here's the deal, I'm not a very good salesman. I haven't offered these consistently on this blog--yet, I have them available! I wear mine daily as a constant reminder of why my daily practice of things is important. I'm not alone, either. This powerful message is worn on the wrists of people in a dozen states, maybe more, I haven't counted--but it's up there!! From New York to California and from Canada all the way to Scotland, they're out there! For me, it's simply a daily reminder to be open, willing, mindful, to pause, and to be intentional. If I'm not those things, I get stuck at the line of least resistance and back there is where the old patterns and behaviors thrive. Your order includes priority shipping so you'll get it quickly! Here's the link to order yours right now: https://imchoosingchange.com/product/wristband/

My website shares a phone number with my podcast, Transformation Planet, and it's always available for you! Have a question? Want to share your story? Leave a voicemail or Text me! 580-491-2228 I'll text you back!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Practice, peace, and calm,
Sean

My website: www.imchoosingchange.com

If you're interested in connecting via social media:
I accept friend requests on MyFitnessPal. My daily food logging diary is set to public.
MFP Username: SeanAAnderson
My Twitter: SeanAAnderson
Facebook: www.facebook.com/seananderson505
Instagram: SeanAAnderson
Also--I'd love you to subscribe to my podcast Transformation Planet! You can find it in Apple Podcasts, in the Google Play store for Android, and listed wherever you find your favorite podcasts! If you haven't listened before, you'll find 20 episodes waiting for you!

Questions or comments? Send an email! transformation.road@gmail.com





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