Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded today's water goal, and I stayed connected with good support.
I received a similar question today to one I answered a while back. Instead of rewriting it, I'm doing a republish on the question and reply.
How did you determine your non-negotiables and how do you stick to them when things get hard?
First of all, you determine what's reasonable. Once you define the most critical elements of your plan boundaries- and you've determined they're doable on a typical day- then you make what I call an iron-clad decision. It's a promise to you from you, to give this element a non-negotiable stance come what may.
Think of it as a boulder in a stream. Life is the rushing water. No matter how fast that water rushes, the boulder isn't moving. The boulder isn't sacrificed or compromised. The water has no choice, but to make its way around it- and it does. And the boulder in the stream stands strong.
On a deeper level, this creates growth/development in other areas, like coping skills- it develops growth in learning what good accountability and support skills are about. The more consistency you gain, the more you'll prove to yourself that it is possible to maintain your plan in the toughest of times.
And that's the idea, a plan, not a diet.
You're developing a plan that takes care of what you need. In honoring your plan, you'll notice the side effect of consistent weight loss. This is what Dr. Lerner (Transformation Planet Podcast Episode 7) means when he speaks of the focus NOT being a diet, but rather, a food plan you can live with indefinitely. And it can still have the boundaries you need to feel satisfied. Especially when you reach maintenance mode and increase your calories.
But again, it's all about the daily plan--and not all about the numbers on the scale. If you take care of your daily plan-the weight loss will come.
How important are your non-negotiable elements?
It is the consistent maintenance of what you're willing to define as non-negotiable that creates growth, and in that--a natural evolution of you unfolds.
Think once more about the boulder in the stream. The boulder stands strong against the current and because it does, the stream evolves--changes course, grows and with the gift of time, develops different paths and canyons. If the boulder simply moved out of the way every time the water came rushing--the stream would have an easier path--one of least resistance. In the path of least resistance, nothing changes. No growth, no canyons.
I've often written about the effects of maintaining non-negotiables. The only way our food plan develops/evolves over time is by maintaining the integrity of the plan. All growth, all of our positive progress--it all depends on our willingness to create, accept and embrace certain non-negotiable elements of our plan. Determining what's reasonable is VERY important. If your non-negotiable is extreme, doesn't fit what you naturally like--is overly restrictive and monumentally demanding, it'll be a horrible experience.
Make it doable for you.
If we sacrifice our plan for whatever reason, the boundaries are broken and growth is stunted. If we develop a habit of consistently sacrificing the integrity of the non-negotiable elements of our plan, we literally become stuck--and often this "stuck" place becomes the very definition of insanity.
Life keeps coming. And there's no such thing as a "perfect time." There's only here and now and with it, a forever fluctuating rhythm to life. Let life flow around the boulders of your non-negotiables... and with the passage of time, you'll experience growth--you'll see and feel the changes, mentally, spiritually, and physically.
Developing your plan for accountability and support is important.
When we decide to create non-negotiable elements of our plan, we lose a coping option. Excess food was always my number one coping tool, albeit not a good one. It lied to me every time--because it never fixed anything.
When I developed my non-negotiables, it strongly encouraged me to either seek positive ways to cope or find other destructive ways to do it. We gotta cope one way or another.
My skills haven't been and still aren't perfect, but it's a practice each and every day.
Staying connected with good support and seeking out those connections in whatever way you can is critically important. There are many options available!
Today's Accountability Tweets:
Earlier: Monday #morningdeal ✅✅✅Done. 2 cups water, 20 push-ups, and 20 squats. Coffee pass earned! pic.twitter.com/czmi2cOI5D— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
Earlier: 3 tbs half & half in the first cup, another 3 tbs half & half in the refill cup, to-go. 120 cal. pic.twitter.com/a1aJJpLBRt— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
Breakfast in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/dW2MVbwrca— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
Ezekiel toasts. One with 2 whole eggs, 2 egg whites, and 1 slice provolone. One with 43g avocado. 7.8oz apple slices. 582 cal. pic.twitter.com/cTM0jCIqxc— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
2 tbs half & half in this midmorning cup of dark roast. 40 cal. pic.twitter.com/Yp5mbrHMTD— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
Lunch in MyFitnessPal. Not shown: 30g sour cream, 4.5oz orange & 65g banana. pic.twitter.com/pCVIc62MjQ— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
Tostadas w/147g fat free refried beans, 2 tbs salsa, 1 slice provolone, 30g lettuce, 30g sour cream, and 64g avocado. 4.5oz orange & 65g banana. 596 cal. pic.twitter.com/eRUr9Wk2Kg— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
3 tbs half & half in this afternoon cup of coffee 60 cal. pic.twitter.com/U1RMuyfWet— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 11, 2017
Dinner in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/dVKsSGSo3l— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 12, 2017
Big 8.1oz top sirloin, 262g red potato prepared w/2 tbs half & half, salt&pepper and topped w/7g (1/2 tbs) butter. 120g green beans. 706 cal. pic.twitter.com/m1pcKW8zsf— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 12, 2017
1.5 cups water exceeds today's #watergoal 5.5oz apple w/16g natural peanut butter #lastfoodofday 189 cal. pic.twitter.com/mrseGo5Y24— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) December 12, 2017
Thank you for reading and your continued support,