December 31st, 2018 In Those Ways
Yesterday: I maintained the integrity of my reduced calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with exceptional support.
Yesterday's event at my girlfriend's family gathering went very well. I could tell the host was familiar with what I do--or was "tipped off," because she immediately gave me ingredients for certain food items. It was very kind of her. I thanked her.
I don't make a big scene with my food plan--I know what my boundaries are--and I'm willing to ask questions if needed, and I had a backup plan ready just in case the choices didn't fit for me. The responsibility for and commitment to my food plan is mine. This is a different approach to how it used to be years ago when I would conveniently place the responsibility on other people or the circumstances at the moment. Thoughts of "well, if so and so wouldn't have brought that one thing, I could have been okay--I just couldn't resist that thing." Or, "It was a party--and I didn't want to offend anyone by not eating the offerings. I had to at least try everything!" You see how those two thoughts clearly transfer the responsibility for my daily practice food plan onto others and onto circumstances or environment? Those thoughts worked way back when because, in that thinking, it wasn't ever my fault. I was the victim--completely at the mercy of others and other things. Preparing and honoring a plan--and taking full responsibility for it, empowers us past a lot of the obstacles we created in the past.
Ideally, when I go to an event like that--I go in, I take personal care of my food plan boundaries and I simply enjoy the celebration. I don't talk about it, I don't make it a big deal, I just take care of it--My food plan doesn't need to be nor should it be a topic of discussion unless someone asks me specific questions--and that happens sometimes, considering what I do in this public way. But, unless I ask a specific question about certain things or someone brings it up, it isn't the focus or a thing. I try to pour myself into the non-food elements of the get-together. I did that too. I had a wonderful conversation with and learned a great deal about her uncle's fascinating life.
When I stay engaged in those ways, it helps keep my brain "between the lines" of my food plan. If I go into an event like that completely focused and obsessed over the food, I'll lose that mental tug-of-war every time. The best thing for me is to NOT pick up my end of the rope. I was so focused on the people and conversations, I didn't even notice the dessert table. That's a little miracle in itself. I also bookend texted a support friend with the intentions of my plan prior to the event. Setting up some accountability helps tremendously.
Tonight, we're attending a New Years Eve fundraiser event for a local chamber of commerce. The food situation will be similar to yesterday's event. Once again, I'm not certain of the choices available, so I'll make sure to keep a backup plan ready. I may eat prior to the event. I'll also be bookend support texting my intentions going into the event and coming out.
Tomorrow is New Years Day--wow, 2018 seemed fast! I'm looking forward to making 2019 a remarkable year in phenomenal ways!
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