The Excitement In Doing
There's an excitement in my step and it's one I recognize from the early days of my weight loss success. I'll be weighing again in a little over a week and every two weeks after and I know, without doubt, I'll find results. I've been straight up walkin' it. I've been doing.
And when we're doing, and we're being true to ourselves along this road, there's an alignment of joy that comes over us like no other. This is what we're looking for. This is what it's been about. This is the road to where we want to go.
The other day on my facebook page I posted a "micro-blog" that generated a couple of questions--and I'd like to answers those...
"At my heaviest, I often asked an endless
amount of questions “in search” of the answers I wanted about weight
loss. And asking questions is a good thing. Often though, I would keep
asking—collecting answers until I heard what I wanted to hear. There
comes a time when the questions have been asked and answered, the advice
given and received—and there's never a shortage when it comes to this
exchange. But there comes a time when we must simply start doing.
Simplifying our approach and simply doing what we already know—then
occasionally reaching back and incorporating nuggets of advice we've
collected along the way, is, in my experience—the way. There comes a
time. And it's here. The time is now."
got that right keep it coming because I need all the info I can get.
Doc say stop eating this and that and it is not working. How about you? Any answer to that as well? Hope to hear from you."
Peggy--There's no shortage of advise, of course. Often, we're told exactly what would be an optimal diet. We're told lean meats, vegetables, fruits and whole grains--or whatever. We're given a menu of what would be this ideal consumption list. And we're given another list of everything we should avoid--and of course it's three times as long. First of all--The doctor is right in an ideal or "perfect" sense. I don't know about you, but I'm not perfect. I'm sure, in the "do and do not" foods listed, he's spot on. What isn't addressed in this approach is what we've been doing, who we are and what it will take to get us there. An all or nothing approach might work for some--a drastic cleaning of the cupboards and fridge---and an immediate shift to only what would be considered ideal. For me, an approach like that would have been going to bed and expecting to wake up a completely different person. And I might have been able to keep up the charade for a while--but eventually, I would return to my natural inclinations--my familiar territory. This is why I'm a big proponent of changing the focus from this "ideal" list of foods--and putting it on a gradual evolution of good choices. Doing--is setting a limit and sticking to it. Holding a calorie limit sacred--making it the most important goal everyday...and allowing room in your food selection to naturally evolve as you go. The focus is less about what you're eating and more about the mental dynamics keeping you honest and within the bounds you've set. First of all--You'll naturally start making better choices simply because you're wanting to get the most value, food, for your available calories. Secondly--By allowing yourself a natural evolution of good choices, you're eliminating the negative mental effects of "I messed up," when you eat something not on the "perfect" list. You'll learn much about yourself along the way when you're taking the approach of portion control--eating what you like, but strictly adhering to a set budget. Eventually you can arrive at a place where you're eating habits are drastically changed in a very natural, productive way.
Nicole: "Figuring out why we do this would be MONUMENTAL, would it not?"
Nicole-- We do this because it postpones the moment where we take control once and for all. As long as we convince ourselves we're ill prepared, without the answers we need--it alleviates the responsibility to take charge of ourselves. And because we're ill prepared, we feel justified in delaying our transformation--it alleviates the feelings of guilt, because we're convinced it's not our fault--we're still a victim because we haven't received the answers we need. We simply must do. Enough with the seeking... The answers will come along the way. And since we're doing, so will results.
I'm headed to Tulsa's Hard Rock Hotel for the Oklahoma Osteopath Association Winter Conference. I'm a featured speaker Saturday morning. The name and focus of the conference is "The Ravages of Obesity." Indeed...yes indeed... It does ravage. I can't wait to speak to a group very different than any other I've ever encountered: 350 doctors and medical professionals in a room. This will be good.
I'm happy to share my mom's wonderful success! She, along with my aunt Kelli and her husband Tim are all doing well--on Day 6 of their journey. They're all supporting one another and all three are experiencing success already. It was pure joy to hear mom's voice last night as she was telling me how she had already lost 2 pounds... She's feeling the same excitement I talked about earlier. She knows success is coming. she's doing. It's such a great feeling.
I look forward to sharing how this conference goes and what I've learned from the experience.
I'll be facing "road decisions" with my food---navigating a Toby Keith's Bar and Grill for dinner tonight. I'll be live tweeting that experience for sure.
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More later, my friends...
My best always---thank you for reading, goodnight and...