I think I've had one other guest post in the history of this blog. And although my friend Jordan didn't write this specifically as a guest post, I asked for his permission to publish it here. It's powerful stuff!
Thank you, Jordan!
"I Know" by Jordan Burgess (Listen to Jordan's interview on episode 13 of Transformation Planet)
"I know"- those words almost killed me.
For years, in fact, most of my adult life, friends, family, and even concerned strangers would try and talk to me about my weight.
Die young, orphaned kids, bad health, diabetes, cancer, no career prospects, and on and on. "I know" was the only response I could muster. And I did know.
What I didn't realize until later was that what I should have said is "I don't know how to stop." My "I know" was really a misplaced cry for help.
I "knew" how to lose weight. For the most part, everyone knows. You simply expend more energy than you consume....every 5th grader knows that, right?
And I knew it too. I just needed to "do" it. Funny how far apart the "knowing" and "doing" were. All that and the results were less than nothing. Literally, I would try and GAIN weight.
The thing that worked for me is I had to have a really honest conversation with myself. Not necessarily about what foods I ate (although that was a part of the conversation), but about why all that knowledge couldn't produce any results. It boiled down to one simple phrase "If I could of, I would of."
I found myself able to exert enormous discipline and willpower in almost every other area of my life, except food. Try as I may, I could never fully tame the compulsion to keep eating things that I knew I shouldn't be in amounts that I shouldn't be eating.
I finally admitted that I would not be able to beat this, not on my own. That's when there was a new plan. Not one of me doing all the work, but more of following simple directions and letting go of the things that I thought I needed. Obviously, those were not working.
If you had told me that I could lose 230 pounds in a year by eating over 2000 calories a day I would have said "impossible."
This honesty and willingness to step outside of my own thinking is what has produced results for me.
Everybody is different. But I would encourage you to ask. If you find yourself time and time again not getting the results you want or expect, then have an honest conversation with yourself. I've been fortunate enough to meet several people on my own journey with lasting recovery. They all have varied food and exercise plans, but the one thing they all have in common is that they are completely honest with themselves.
People will sometimes approach me about just having "one of this" or "one of that" when it comes to food. "All things in moderation," they say. I almost always respond that I "am on a plan of abstinence, not moderation."
Moderation does not work for me, especially when it comes to food. One thing I had to learn about me is that I had to be abstinent from certain things with a happy heart.
For example- I love ice cream- Blue Bell ice cream is my absolute favorite. When I discovered ice cream was probably my #1 trigger food I determined I could not have it. Not a single bite, ever again- because if I started - I didn't know if I could stop. Over time I would get resentful- whenever I saw someone else eating it, or when a new flavor came out. I realized this resentment was poisoning my plan. I was looking at it the wrong way. What I was getting was much more valuable than what I was giving up.
Once I flipped that perspective- then I was ready to embrace a food plan that abstained from anything and everything that triggered me.
I just thought I'd throw out some thoughts tonight. Hope you are all well.
Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with great support contacts. It was a successful day!
I have to be up fairly early for radio tomorrow--I'm hitting the pillow and letting the Tweets tell the tale of today!
Today's Accountability Tweets:
Cheers! It's Friday! Bottoms up on this fast 2 cups of water- then the #morningdeal wraps with 20 push-ups & 20 squats- then coffee!! #tgif pic.twitter.com/oUdn3pegZ2— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
3 tbs half & half in this first cup of coffee, another 3 tbs half & half in the to-go cup refill. 120 cal. pic.twitter.com/56WBenAGqt— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
Breakfast in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/i5eIlCkvrF— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
2 whole eggs, 2 egg whites & 88g avocado. 2.8oz pineapple & 6.8oz cameo apple. 454 cal. pic.twitter.com/sJU0ZHwLRK— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
Midmorning cup of dark roast coffee with two tablespoons half & half. 40 cal. pic.twitter.com/rN3eIG4JQj— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
4.7oz orange & 143g banana 189 cal. pic.twitter.com/5bYwyhatZj— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
Company lunch meeting! Appetizer: Two slices fried green tomato. 102 cal. pic.twitter.com/TF7v7H82an— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
Lunch in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/WuiaiXbBTb— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
6oz sirloin, medium baked potato with 2 tablespoons sour cream & 6 carrot sticks. 571 cal. pic.twitter.com/XXUF1Blm9n— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
3 tbs half & half in this afternoon cup. 60 cal. pic.twitter.com/uFolc6tfz1— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 5, 2017
Earlier this evening... 2 tbs half & half in this cup of coffee. 40 cal. pic.twitter.com/7kwNlpJXKH— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 6, 2017
Love making these. Using less ingredients this time, for a lower count. Stuffed mushroom with dinner! pic.twitter.com/z551H9yHtL— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 6, 2017
Dinner in MyFitnessPal. Not shown in screen shot: 28g marble-jack cheese. pic.twitter.com/0oVLhNPYkD— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 6, 2017
The key for making the smaller ingredient amounts work- Mildly melting the cream cheese first, for easier spreading. Total cal: 213 pic.twitter.com/ImQXq1xvGj— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 6, 2017
6oz 96% lean beef, mustard & 25g red onion on tstded Ezekiel bun. 6.6oz baby portobello mushrooms, 1oz crm.cheese & 28g marble-jack. 611 cal pic.twitter.com/nYwDBz8C4j— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) May 6, 2017
Thank you for reading and your continued support,