Tuesday, October 27, 2015

October 27th, 2015 Mega-Post

October 27th, 2015 Mega-Post

I sincerely appreciate the variety of feedback/response to yesterday's edition of The Winning Loser Video Blog. I want to share some of the responses. But first, in case you missed it...


Please subscribe and you'll never miss an episode! Like I mentioned in last night's blog post, the advice given in the video certainly doesn't apply to everyone. Some are truly motivated and empowered by daily weigh-ins. But for anyone like me, daily weighing--or just weighing too often can be an all consuming/obsessive and consistency killing kind of practice.

(I've edited a few typos and reformatted some of the following responses)

Jon in Wisconsin writes:
Awesome winning loser video Sean! I am without question one of those people that finds weighing myself everyday preferred, as I analyze the numbers and have grown immune to the daily fluctuations. At times when I go on vacation, not weighing myself, I become unsure, uneasy and insecure of unknown weight fluctuations in progress. 

Daily observed weights the past 20 months has provided great understanding, insight, knowledge, comfort & calmness. Being able to analyze the numbers and how specific nutrition or activity creates obvious weight fluctuation trends, then using the information to establish theories as if I were pretending to be a very smart, perhaps mad scientist, makes this whole process very interesting and helpful with my own transformation. 

Having said that, I realize I am more the exception than the norm. You basically nailed it, hit a HR with the advice you offered in this video blog. Unless you're like me, immune to 15 pound weekly weight loss fluctuations and enjoy trying to analyze and make theories from an unreliable source-- You would probably be a lot happier and more successful following Sean's advice here.

Reply:
I know you well, Jon, having spent a few fantastic days in your company a year ago. You're a numbers person, pure and simple--and you approach it like a science experiment. In effect, you're doing some fascinating research. Me--uhg...I couldn't do it, Jon--I would drive myself nuts.

We've spoken about the core elements of who we are and how important it is to nurture those things...because it's truly, in my opinion, a path to happiness regardless of circumstance. And I believe your fascination and keen understanding of numbers is part of yours. It's a gift you possess.
I thought about you as we shot this one--and I knew it wouldn't apply to you! :)
I appreciate your recommendation of me!

Anonymous writes:
This video is so timely. I have stepped on that scale daily for as long as I can remember. For the past few months my scale seemed to be way off so I gave in & bought a new one. Guess what? The new one shows I don't really fluctuate all that much from one day to the next. On the old scale I experienced daily swings of 2 - 3 pounds. I'm sad to think of all the wasted energy I spent trying to figure out what I did right or wrong & all the power I gave to a scale that wasn't even working!! I'm going to try once a week...you've convinced me.

Reply:
I'm truly excited for you, A! I'm so glad you're adopting a once a week weigh day! Glad you have a new scale!

Megan in Texas writes:
Oh Sean, I have been such a "scale addict" since reaching goal weight and it stresses me out! I am going to watch your video each morning for a while and then hit the gym. It is SO much better to concentrate on working more broccoli into my diet than sweating over a little water weight!
LOVE this video and your commitment to giving back toward others physical and emotional well-being... Thank you. ~~ Megan

Reply:
Megan, you nailed it--that's the idea. I'm the same. The only difference between us is, I don't own a scale at home. Otherwise, I too might fall into the potentially obsessive trap of constantly weighing.

The idea behind this, is--in shifting our focus from the scale, to a tight embrace of our fundamental elements--and because we're likely to experience less anxiety or disappointment, it enables us a better chance at consistency within our individual fundamental elements each day.

Thank you for the love! Helping others, helps me and my physical and emotional well being, too!

Rosie writes:
I'm going to write just about what your other writers said. Yep, I'm a scale person. Daily. I laughed out loud when I saw the opening of your video because that is ME! I talk to that Bitch every day. I plead with her and tell her to be nice. Give me what I want to see. And when she doesn't I do exactly as you said. I sulk. I'm a NOTSONICE person to be around. I have cried and kicked and screamed because of my failures. Did you see what I wrote? MY failures. 

As of late, I'm trying to weigh once or twice a week. Of course after the shower and nakie . I'm slowly trying to release my failure feelings but as I do that, it has given me permission to stick this in my mouth here and there... so .... there it is.. I need accountability. And how do I get it? From people around here? Nope. EVERYONE has been waiting for the failure... the comparisons and so on... 
I'm proud to say I have maintained and that is a positive.. I guess.

You however, are a rock star... not sure how you got to rock star status but you sir are amazing. :)

Rosie

Reply:
Rosie, your increased awareness will help you through in wonderful ways.

Could you acknowledge two things you're doing wonderfully right, each day? Because you are. In order to have the success you've achieved (notice I said "success"), it's taken positive and wonderful things.
Could you try acknowledging two each day for one week? Like, really think about it--identify them and truly give yourself a pat on the back for doing well.
So many times the positive things we do each day get covered by the over-sized blanket of negativity we're using to warmly wrap our perceived failings (notice I said "perceived").

I appreciate the rock star status you've given me, Thank you. I must tell you, though, I'm just like you.

JMT writes:
"Omygosh, dying over the beginning of the video...so funny, but true, too! I work for Weight Watchers, so I see this first hand all the time. I'm one of those who weighs myself almost every morning, but for some reason it doesn't bother me. I'm one of those weird people who it motivates to keep myself in check. I get how it can be a detriment for many, though. I can see your comedy background coming through...love it!"

Reply:
JMT, WW is so awesome for so many! It's truly all about perspective. Good for you in not allowing it to adversely affect you day to day! It affects you in positive ways. I wish I could say the same!
Oh yes-- I love comedy and acting. There will be more of that in upcoming episodes, for sure! Even incorporating other actors to play certain roles.
JMT, thank you! I didn't know you worked for WW! That's very cool.
Does the CEO still write his blog? I haven't checked in some time.

DeDe writes:
Sean,

This is so true and I agree with it 100%!

Dede

Reply:
Dede, thank you. For some of us--oh my, very true!!!

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All this scale talk reminds me, tomorrow is my bi-weekly maintenance weigh-in! I almost forgot!! See, I'm making it so insignificant I almost forgot! But make no mistake, I'll be taking a support buddy along to the doctor's office, via text of course, just in case I need some perspective in the moments after it gives me the reading. Good support helps!

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A promotional photo in studio today. We're promoting our involvement in an annual Halloween event where we'll be passing out candy to kids in costume Thursday evening. This wasn't the photo used--this was an extra shot with a wide-eyed concerned look! It's cool that 99% of my colleagues know me well enough to not be overly concerned when I'm around over 1,000 pieces of candy. Halloween candy-- that topic will get discussed later this week, I'm sure. I've already packed too much into this post! This has turned into a Mega-Post. And I'm not quite finished! 

I didn't manage my calorie budget very well today. My breakfast was a little higher than normal, not much, but I think it might have subconsciously encouraged a smaller lunch and dinner--and this created a budget with too many calories left, late. No complaints. This is a nice "problem" within maintenance mode.

I prepared a relatively low cal mushroom and pineapple pizza for 367 calories to boost the final total. And honestly, I'm working on accepting that it's okay if some days are a little lower. However, my goal is to maintain, not lose. It simply comes down to managing better throughout the day. This issue seems to be exclusive to maintenance mode for me. I don't remember having it at any other time before now. I'm blessed in many ways--and one, I truly believe, is how this turnaround from relapse/regain has done wonders at repairing my metabolism. I'm grateful.

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Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

6 comments:

  1. this is the Epic mega post! love it <3

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  2. Food for thought: if it's okay to be a little under some days and the aim is to maintain, this should probably be balanced by days where it's equally okay to be a little over.

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    1. It's a slippery slope in the other direction, A. For a compulsive eater/emotional/stress eater who is, without doubt, a food addict (with refined sugar being the key substance in that addiction)--maintaining the integrity of a predetermined calorie budget is imperative--not as much for the physical reasons, but for the mental ones.
      If I suddenly allow myself to assume an intuitive approach instead of a structured one based on elements that work for me, I know from experience, I would be setting myself up to take advantage of it in devastating ways.
      The alternative would be to raise my budget and be okay going under whenever the day dictates.
      I appreciate your thoughts. And on the surface it makes perfect sense--but given my history, it's much more complex and requires my respect, daily.

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  3. Love the look on your face behind that candy! LOL Priceless!
    Thanks for the response to my post! I appreciate it. And I will take your advice! You hit a lot of nerves with the vblog... ! nicely done!!!
    Thanks again, Sean!
    Rosie

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    1. I'm so glad that Vlog resonated so deeply with you, Rosie!

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