Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed connected with good support.
I've been trying to identify and best articulate the most critical element transforming extreme struggle into harmonious consistency. Having experienced both, it's a fascinating study. Sure, it's a combination of elements, but what is the one, that without, all the others become ineffective? Is it acceptance, where suddenly we embrace instead of reject?
That's fine, but how do we get to a place of acceptance? I keep coming back to perspective. The late Dr. Wayne Dyer said it so perfectly: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
The perspective we choose is paramount to our success, of course. Sometimes, finding the perspective that engages the gear you're looking for isn't as easy as someone saying, “change your perspective.”
In my opinion, we first must identify, one by one—the mind noise and clutter that keeps our current perspective in a locked position. It's mental work that's worth the effort. Because if we can get past these things and truly shift our perspective, suddenly what once seemed impossible becomes not only possible, it becomes our new everyday reality, a non-physical transformation where we can finally experience the seemingly elusive, harmonious consistency.
A good friend of mine (with nearly 30 years in recovery) added this:
Want. Want is first. If we don't want to change, nothing happens. Belief is second. If we don't believe we can change, nothing happens. Self-awareness comes third. If we don't become aware of the inner self, the baggage of the past, the self-conscious "facts" we already have in place that are working to defeat us and keep us locked into our old behavior, they will, eventually and assuredly derail any attempt to change and again, nothing happens.
Change, you see is a process and there is ALWAYS a most important element. We move from one most important to the next, and sometimes we must move back to the previous most important element, which brings me to one more "most important" element: Faith. If we don't have faith, we are sure to fail. Faith that I CAN change. Faith that the mistake I just made doesn't doom me. Faith that if I get on track, or get back on track, change will come. If we lose faith, none of the other elements will matter, because we won't believe they can work.
We, of course, could debate the order of these elements or which is the MOST important, but after years of struggle, growth, setbacks, and triumphs, I believe that is a pretty good BASE list of the "most critical elements" of transformation.
Oh, and let me add one more, lest I forget it and lose all of my progress: HUMILITY.
If I ever think "I've got this figured out" I will surely fail.
I must remain teachable, and the first element of being teachable is a realization that I do NOT already know all that I need to know.
So the list I have shared with you here is Want, Belief, Self-Awareness, Faith, and Humility.
Odd that I should have almost forgotten humility, and then placed it last on the list. As I sit here typing, the thought occurs to me that perhaps HUMILITY should be FIRST. Perhaps that I almost didn't even think of it is the real root of my problem?
Without humility, NONE of the other elements could exist.
I guess I don't know which is first. All I know is there are a LOT of elements to change and they are ALL the most critical.
Thank you, Sean for starting my day off with a good think. Now I will add a prayer to it, and I should be off to a good start.
Today's Accountability Tweets:
#morningdeal back to normal: 2 cups water, 20 push-ups, and 20 squats✅✅✅Done. Coffee pass earned. pic.twitter.com/OHMuc16uMZ— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
3 tbs half & half in the first cup, another 3 tbs half & half in the refill cup, to-go. 120 cal. pic.twitter.com/q4ajvg0lbI— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
Breakfast in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/LirzfrFtOp— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
Ezekiel toasts. 1 w/2whole eggs, 2 egg whites & 1 slice swiss. 1 w/56g avocado. 7.5oz pear. 618 cal. pic.twitter.com/fZayCkVy1j— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
2 tbs half & half in this midmorning cup of coffee. 40 cal. pic.twitter.com/Hs9UR5jiAu— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
Lunch in MyFitnessPal. Not shown: 30g sour cream, 30g avocado, and 3oz apple slices. pic.twitter.com/qDeH7wP0DC— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
2 Tostadas w/148g fat free beans, 2 tbs salsa, 62g blck olives, 2 slices provolone, 40g lettuce, 30g sr crm&30g avocado. 3oz apples. 628 cal pic.twitter.com/RYCLEOrDIj— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
3 tbs half & half in this afternoon cup of coffee 60 cal. pic.twitter.com/ENkKzy2d8T— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 6, 2017
Dinner in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/FEC8o3Et9U— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 7, 2017
6.7oz petite sirloin, 256g sweet potato pan prepared w/71g red onion, 4oz mushrooms, and 4secOOSpray. 3.4oz apple. 657 cal. pic.twitter.com/sK1KLyNQjc— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 7, 2017
1.5 cups water exceeds #watergoal 5oz pear & 105g banana slices #lastfoodofday 176 cal. pic.twitter.com/BWjAuKgycl— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) November 7, 2017
Thank you for reading and your continued support,