I came across this while searching through the archives this evening. It is powerful!
By Sonny Carroll
A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks, and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out… ENOUGH! Enough fighting, crying, blaming, and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears, and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change. Or, for happiness, safety, and security to appear over the next horizon as if by magic.
You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you. And, in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are, and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you, or didn’t do for you. You learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don’t always say what they mean, or mean what they say. That not everyone will always be there for you, and everything isn’t always about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own. You learn to take care of yourself, and in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers. You begin to accept people as they are. To overlook their shortcomings and human frailties, and in the process peace and contentment are born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing. You begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing. You stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don’t know everything. It’s not your job to save the world, and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are, not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, the importance of setting boundaries, and learning to say NO.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over, and ignoring your needs.
You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty, so you take more time to rest. You learn that just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So, you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for. That wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.
You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into, and through your fears because you know that whatever may happen, you can handle it. You learn that to give in to fear is to give away your right to live life on your own terms.
You learn to fight for your life. Not to squander it by living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn’t always fair. You don’t always get what you think you deserve. That sometimes, bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. You learn not to always take it personally.
You learn that nobody’s punishing you, and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong, and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected. If not, they will suffocate the life out of you. They will poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be thankful, and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted. The things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself. You make yourself a promise to never betray yourself. To never ever settle for less than your heart’s desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling. To keep trusting. To stay open to every wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand. You take a deep breath. You begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget. I remained abstinent from refined sugar. I exceeded my daily water goal and I remained connected with incredible support.
It's past my bedtime!
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#morningdeal Will add small hand weights in coming days. 2 cups water-20 push-ups-20 squats✔️✔️✔️Coffee pass earned! pic.twitter.com/dMEdLElnaF— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
3 tbsp half & half in this Monday morning dark roast. This and another to-go w/same, soon. Good morning! 120 cal. pic.twitter.com/PY4Bytbb1m— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Big breakfast in MyFitnessPal. pic.twitter.com/Jz4e1LiYSh— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Ezekiel tst topped w/2 whl eggs-1 wht & .5oz cream cheese, another w/93g avocado. 5.8oz apple & 5.2oz orange. 651cal pic.twitter.com/4P9H8lPLtN— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Two tbsp half & half in this Midmorning cup of dark roast. 40 cal. pic.twitter.com/Ck7BwYSXnS— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Midmorning something, holdover until lunch. 4.8oz banana & 80g fresh strawberry slices. 103 cal. pic.twitter.com/W5xMJn20vz— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Lunch in MyFitnessPal. Not shown: 7.4oz pear pic.twitter.com/7LCWX00wtY— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Tostadas w/130g ff/sf beans, 2 tbsp salsa, 2-provolone, 25g lettuce, 34g red pepper & 15g sr crm. 7.4oz pear. 472cal pic.twitter.com/oFvAbrj2qR— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Two tbsp half & half in this afternoon dark roast. 40 cal. pic.twitter.com/3MtqDhTdx7— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
140 calorie holdover mushroom pizza, in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/CrPoBdIu8H— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Keeps me till dinner. Joseph's 60 calorie pita w/31g sugar free marinara, 1.5oz mushrooms & 1 slice mozz. 140 cal. pic.twitter.com/0oSAX7ZBVt— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 22, 2016
Dinner in MyFitnessPal... pic.twitter.com/in8iBRH764— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 23, 2016
3oz whl grain spaghetti w/124g low cal alfredo, 45g mixed veggies, 1.15oz mshrms, 6oz 93% lean turkey mtblls. 643cal pic.twitter.com/hZiaRn9iOz— Sean Anderson (@SeanAAnderson) August 23, 2016
Thank you for reading and your continued support,